explanation, please
I met this guy at Tryst last month, the evening before the election. Randomly -- I sat at his table because there was a spot free and his ashtray was full and I wanted to smoke.
We talked about London and Madrid, about politics, about quirks. He was tall and had dark hair, and I pretty much thought he was lovely, and we had a nice conversation. Okay. He left after bumming a few stogs, and after introducing himself to me.
I was confused. It seemed to me like we were hitting it off, and then he just left. So I chalked it up to the Great He's Just Not That Into Me in the Sky, and managed to let it go.
Fast forward to tonight (this morning). After dinner, Elissa and I watch some Freaks and Geeks, and then go to the Wonderbar to meet up with some other peeps.
We're there, we're dancin', we're drinkin' -- and guess who walks in -- that's right, Mystery Man.
I find him at the bar. Buy him a drink (well, I tried to buy him a drink -- but they comped me -- woo hoo!) We talk. He introduces me to some of his peoples -- they're all friends with the DJ, very nice. We go downstairs to have a smoke, then I go back to my folks, he goes back to his. Okay.
For the next two hours, off and on, we sort of meet up and go away from each other -- two or three times. He buys me a drink, he gives me a smoke, we see each other upstairs and downstairs, we have several more conversations. I do not seek him out, but he comes up to me at least once.
Then I'm upstairs and I'm dancing and I see him go downstairs. I don't follow because I'm dancing and it's my last song and I'm about to leave. Then when I get downstairs, I don't see him -- maybe he's in the bathroom? I say to one of his friends (very politely, he introduced me to everyone), "Oh, please tell X I said goodnight" and she says, "I think he's already left."
So.
I know, I know, He's Just Not That Into Me. But if that's true, then why talk to me again, AFTER the first conversation (the one I started) has ended? Why? If you're Not That Into Me, why talk to me more than once? Why make faces at me across the dance floor? Why tell me, "I'm delighted to see you here?" Why buy me a goddam drink? Is there some secret man-woman code for which I am missing the bloody key? I didn't want to throw myself at him, but I could barely fucking stand whenever we were near each other, I was so shaky, and then he just ... left.
I am mystified.
We talked about London and Madrid, about politics, about quirks. He was tall and had dark hair, and I pretty much thought he was lovely, and we had a nice conversation. Okay. He left after bumming a few stogs, and after introducing himself to me.
I was confused. It seemed to me like we were hitting it off, and then he just left. So I chalked it up to the Great He's Just Not That Into Me in the Sky, and managed to let it go.
Fast forward to tonight (this morning). After dinner, Elissa and I watch some Freaks and Geeks, and then go to the Wonderbar to meet up with some other peeps.
We're there, we're dancin', we're drinkin' -- and guess who walks in -- that's right, Mystery Man.
I find him at the bar. Buy him a drink (well, I tried to buy him a drink -- but they comped me -- woo hoo!) We talk. He introduces me to some of his peoples -- they're all friends with the DJ, very nice. We go downstairs to have a smoke, then I go back to my folks, he goes back to his. Okay.
For the next two hours, off and on, we sort of meet up and go away from each other -- two or three times. He buys me a drink, he gives me a smoke, we see each other upstairs and downstairs, we have several more conversations. I do not seek him out, but he comes up to me at least once.
Then I'm upstairs and I'm dancing and I see him go downstairs. I don't follow because I'm dancing and it's my last song and I'm about to leave. Then when I get downstairs, I don't see him -- maybe he's in the bathroom? I say to one of his friends (very politely, he introduced me to everyone), "Oh, please tell X I said goodnight" and she says, "I think he's already left."
So.
I know, I know, He's Just Not That Into Me. But if that's true, then why talk to me again, AFTER the first conversation (the one I started) has ended? Why? If you're Not That Into Me, why talk to me more than once? Why make faces at me across the dance floor? Why tell me, "I'm delighted to see you here?" Why buy me a goddam drink? Is there some secret man-woman code for which I am missing the bloody key? I didn't want to throw myself at him, but I could barely fucking stand whenever we were near each other, I was so shaky, and then he just ... left.
I am mystified.
posted by Hannah at 2:10 AM
2 Comments:
IMHO- he likes you but he's hella shy and/or insecure-- duh!
solution: make a move!
=T=
Hey just stumbled randomly into your blog. :-)
I think he was definitely into you, and has a girlfriend, and decided to do the honest thing and not make a move on you. Anyway, the other poster is right, next time you should make a move and just see what happens. The worst a guy can say is that he's not interested.
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